I've avoided my recovery for a bit now because of fear it being too much, only now to be realizing I've been in like a high functioning anxiety mode for years... My poor body...
I felt like I had submitted to the fact that I can't control him but instead of allowing the emotion that came with that, I suppressed it into that buzzing anxiety that wasn't debilitating but kept me stuck and still trying to control.
I've been so grateful Jolene makes it seem so much less scary and I've made insane progress just in the few weeks I've been here. I've pushed to address things I've been avoiding and it's exciting!
-Danyelle
I felt a connection when I read your story. It was the first time in months where I felt like there was someone out there who knew what I was feeling. I'm here for support and to not feel alone.
-Krista
I remember before I started coaching with you, where I was emotionally. I was a ticking bomb. I would start crying from the simplest things that didn’t seem to relate to what the actual problem was. I wasn’t communicating and I had zero boundaries. My cup was always empty and I felt like I had nothing left to give and was worthless. My marriage was falling apart.
I’ve learned how to go into a conversation without an agenda. How to worry less! Which is HUGE…my anxiety hasn’t been as big of a problem as it has in the past. How to talk about difficult topics without getting into arguments. How to stand up for myself. Still working on boundaries but I understand them so much better than before. I have such a long way to go still but that’s life! I can stay the same miserable person which is comfortable and known. It’s not scary because I know what to expect, but then….I’m miserable. Or I can learn, grow, change and therefore become happier. Which is harder because it's unknown and scary. But SO worth all the work!
-Kammy
My experience with you as a coach was incredibly transformative and has helped me get a healthier place. I'll never forget the moment and struggle I was in when I found your work and reached out to you for our first intro. call. You were so supportive and confident that there were solutions to my issues, exactly what I needed at the time.
-Jackie
"I've learned so much. I've grown to love everyone and especially you and I appreciate all of your time and knowledge you share with us!"
"Since I started coaching with you, I feel like my world has turned around. And I'm just scraping the surface!"
-JD
"I have found so much more joy in my day to day as I recognize the ways that I'm buffering and allowing myself to feel all the feels. Feeling the frustration, discomfort, disappointment, and, at times, anger have allowed the feelings of peace, joy, and happiness to be so much more potent! Thank you for that!"
"I loved learning from Jolene! She is so positive and helpful! I never felt judged! Doing this course really helped me learn more about my thoughts and emotions and how to handle myself better. I still need more practice but now I have direction!"
-Alicia
"Jolene is an expert at teaching how to understand our thoughts and feelings, and how they connect together to give us different results. She coached me through how to work and feel through those emotions, so I could get to a space of peace. Dealing with a spouse who is addicted to pornography or just life's ups and downs becomes a whole lot easier and manage and walk through with this course! I'm so grateful I found Jolene! This has changed the way I think and feel!"
-Amy
"I feel like you saved me…. My marriage……my confidence to continue to be me. You are the only one who has ever coached me and it was a life changing experience. You taught me so much more than how to deal with my husband’s addiction. You taught me that it’s not about me, I’d heard it but I never believed it. I was honestly waiting for the next time he slipped up. Then I was gone because I couldn’t do it anymore. I am not waiting for that anymore. My life doesn’t revolve around secrets or not secrets anymore. Do I trust him 100 percent all of the time? No. But that’s ok. I’m working through it. I trust him enough …. That doesn’t mean that he’s going to be perfect. I’m not perfect either. But I love him and I honestly now know that he loves me. I can feel it. I’m in a marriage that I want to continue to be in. Since He’s not perfect and neither am I that’s where kindness comes in. We can talk about it now where before we just fought about it. There was so much pain. So much anger. We’ve replaced that with more love and communication. I’m still here because maybe you were called to help a million women, I don’t know…. But I am one woman who is eternally grateful for the lessons you taught me and for the times you made me step back and evaluate where I was before we moved forward. You helped make me a stronger woman and a better wife, and I can’t thank you enough. Love you girl!"
-Kenna